She doesn't love me anymore: how to move on?

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Lachlan BrownLast Updated November 25, 2022, 9:29 am


Love: it’s that magical experience that can turn even the dreariest life into a blooming wonderland.

But when love is fading away it can feel like you’re wilting with the withered autumn leaves. If you’re in a relationship that’s going sour you may be stuck with all sorts of anxieties and sad emotions brewing inside of you.

What did I vì chưng to make her behave this way?

Why is this relationship such a drag these days?

Is this current rough spot in my head or is it real?

Am I trying too hard và actually making her pull away even more?

And, most of all: has she fallen out of love with me or is there still a chance to patch things up?

1) She just doesn’t give a rip

If you’ve had bad breakups & rough relationships before then you know the feeling of a toxic connection.

Constant fights, brutal insults followed by passionate makeup sex. Building someone up just to break them down. Using vulnerabilities to lớn attack your partner. Feelings of betrayal, inadequacy, deep disappointment.

Sadly, people in love vì this all the time when they haven’t yet healed the wounds within themselves.

People who aren’t in love don’t usually bởi this. They generally just … don’t care.

If she’s fallen out of love with you chances are she’s checked out emotionally & in most other ways.

Does she ignore most of what you say, smile wanly in a fake way constantly? Make excuses that she has khổng lồ go every time you’re about to lớn spend time together? These are all classic signs of avoidance & someone who is no longer in love.

The harsh truth is that a woman can feel a lot of resentment toward you but still love you, but when she loses respect for you love goes right along with it. You can be the nicest guy in the world, but if you’re wishy-washy và never stand up for yourself (or anything else) you won’t even appear on her romance radar.

One word answers, quick pecks on the cheek, avoided eye contact, và generally, uninterested behavior should tell you all you need lớn know. If your partner still loved you then you have to lớn explain why she is treating you lượt thích a stain on the carpet.

Maybe it’s for something completely unrelated and to vày with her own life. But chances are it’s more related khổng lồ her losing respect and attraction for you.

It might not even be your fault, but denying it won’t change it. It has happened khổng lồ me when a girl I was dating started showing less và less interest after seeing me have an anxiety attack và me becoming clingy và dependent on her validation as a result.

There are many reasons it can happen và it’s not pretty. It can be a big hit lớn your self-esteem & self-image. But would you rather a woman fake it or would you rather rip the bandaid off?

Pay attention to lớn signs that she doesn’t love you anymore.

And if life circumstances or any other reasons have caused her to lớn stop seeing you as “her guy” (including meeting another guy who she is more attracted to) then you’re going lớn feel that icy cold wind of indifference blowing in from the north.

2) Her new guy friends start popping up all over

Assuming you’re not a jealous guy, then your girlfriend or wife having male friends is no big giảm giá at all. In fact, you’re glad for her and you might feel like it eases off the pressure on you khổng lồ be Mr. Chatty at times.

Still, the underlying fact about this is that if a woman is getting closer and closer to lớn guy friends & attracting them lượt thích flies there’s a reason for that. Và it’s not her being so in love with you that she just wants to dish lớn her new beard buddies.

Women lap up male attention – platonic or otherwise – because it feeds a positive image they have of themselves và boosts their self-esteem & confidence. Obviously men và women can be great friends without it having khổng lồ be some fake-ass ego-stroking club, but the point is that if your girl is wandering off và popping up with all sorts of new & old rediscovered guy friends you might want to lớn see that as a bit of a red flag.

Is every one of those guys gay? vị you want khổng lồ put money on it that at least one of them wouldn’t mind some time kissing your girlfriend after a nice walk on the beach and enjoying some sweet loving afterward?

Come on.

Even if she never gets close lớn cheating with her male friends, she’s clearly seeking out some emotional validation và connection that she isn’t feeling with you.

As a guy how many of your female friends would you have turned down dating? Especially during a vulnerable or confusing time? Maybe some you weren’t into romantically, sure, but at least a few I am guessing you would have jumped at the chance for romance.

Similarly, with your other half, she likely doesn’t see all her guy friends as “like brothers” (although she may see you that way now if she’s acting this way).

There’s always the guy you never thought in a million years she’d be into until you glance over & see her sexting him and then find them in bed together the next week.

I’m not advocating to be a jealous control freak or interrogate your partner. Just be aware that the new cast of the Bachelorette might be there as a replacement for you, not just for shits và giggles.

3) What would a relationship coach say?

While this article explores the most common signs she doesn’t love you anymore, it can be helpful to lớn speak lớn a relationship coach about your situation.

With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…

Relationship anh hùng is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations, like knowing where you stand with a woman. They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.

How vị I know?

Well, I reached out to Relationship hero a few months ago when I was going through a tough patch in my own relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a chất lượng insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

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I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.

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4) She’d rather spend time with her “girls” than you

The flip side of your partner spending lots of time with gaggles of new guy friends is when she brushes you off at every opportunity khổng lồ hang out with the “girls.”

OK, great. Of course, you are glad she has her own life và female friends lớn hang out with & enjoy time together. Nothing wrong with that.

The problem comes about in that a woman’s friend circle isn’t always super positive và they aren’t necessarily going to influence her in a good direction, especially if alcohol và long rants about what dicks they’re stuck with ends up becoming the topic of conversation (and does it ever not?)

Especially if your girl has close “girls” who are more on the negative and kick-ass-and-take-names side, there’s a good chance your dirty laundry will be getting aired và she’ll start to lớn treat time with her girls as a fantasy nguồn projection of leaving you behind (until she does just that for real).


So, what are you going to lớn do, forbid her to have her own social life? Of course not.

Just be aware that if she’s spending every second day with a crowd of her girls và sulking at you when she’s around it is not a good sign. You have become the house-bound ogre who holds her down while time with her ladies is glamorous và free.

What exactly does she want “freedom” from? Are you that bad? It’s a rhetorical question.

Hopefully not.

But you’re probably not a man she’s in love with anymore if she’s acting this way và romantically dodging you lượt thích a professional jiu-jitsu champion: that’s for sure.

5) She doesn’t want to lớn touch you or you lớn touch her

Let’s be clear, your gal or the girl you’re into obviously has no “obligation” to be physically intimate with you or cảm biến you or massage you or drape herself all over you in sensuous bliss as a cool night breeze comes through the window highlighting her enticing raven-black hair …

OK, where was I …


If your woman is always avoiding your cảm ứng or touching you it’s a good sign she’s just not feeling it anymore. Sure, it may be temporary or her own unrelated issue, but in most cases … it’s you.

She isn’t into you và doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore – và for whatever reason – even though she will very likely say it’s not you & she’s just feeling uncomfortable or bad about other things – it’s trò chơi over for you.

If you vì kiss her, caress her or have sex does she make it seem lượt thích an awful chore? This is right in the absolute Kenny Loggins danger zone (RIP Kenny).

When you’re too available và desiring her affection và she’s not feeling it that can create a vicious cycle of chasing and withdrawal where you become progressively less attractive khổng lồ her until – eventually – her number one mission is just to get away from you & figure out a way lớn make you stop wanting khổng lồ be with her.

Something has made you become too familiar, too easy, too needy và she may still talk to lớn you or laugh at your jokes but when it comes time for the tender embrace of the night she is nowhere khổng lồ be found and you’re there firing up the computer lớn indulge your porn addiction or wondering why your life is a constant series of disappointments (or both).

If she’s treating you lượt thích just another pal and dishing her attention and affection on other guys you are now on the losing side of the love equation.

6) She’s bored

Women getting bored in a relationship is much more common than you probably think.

Would she rather sit on the sofa and re-watch Shawshank Redemption then go somewhere with you?

Having completely silent dinners?

Stopped talking about your days?

These are all signs she’s getting bored with your relationship and has probably fallen out of love with you.

The truth is that love is psychological và if you want her to lớn love you completely then you need to play the trò chơi a little.

Something a little sneaky, but extremely effective, is to địa chỉ cửa hàng a bit of ambiguity to your relationship.

Girls love drama, so sometimes act (a little) cold or distant và message her (a little) less than you usually do.


It’s a psychological fact that when we fear we’re going to thua kém something, we want it 10x more.

Humans hate losing shit. Và when it comes to love, women are absolutely no exception.

7) She trash talks you to friends

Nobody’s perfect và now & then she’s going khổng lồ have some negative words khổng lồ say about you to her friends. But when she makes it into a habit it’s no mistake.

She’s trying khổng lồ take the Love Bridge you two built together and blow it into smithereens lượt thích a World War Two commando squad.

Mission Accomplished. There’s something so sexy about a girl in uniform …

Still, how much does it suck to lớn know the girl you love is out there dragging your name through the mad and making you out to lớn be a pathetic sack of sh*t?

Well, it’s not great. This is a subset of her always hanging out with the girls, although she’s going khổng lồ be more than willing lớn unload on what a jerk you are to lớn her guy & gal friends alike – especially after a few drinks.

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Have her friends started giving you a weird amount of side-eye & you can’t go out in public without an industrial-sized pile of shade being thrown at you? Some trash-talking may have taken place.